My view – Beauty and sexuality
Dear brothers and sisters,
Thank you for reading this new blog in the “My view”. In this blog I will be talking about beauty and sexuality and what the Bible tells us about this subject. Nowadays the media (and society as a whole) has a very distorted view on what beauty and sexuality are and should be.
As a Christian we are luckily thought by God what beauty really is. First of all God created all of us in His image. This means that although someone may not look like the media or society wants, but that does not mean that someone is not beautiful. God made everybody with a desire for someone else. God wouldn’t put a desire for another person in you, if He did not also put someone on earth as well that considers you to be beautiful.
But according to the Bible when we focus on beauty then we should look at the innerbeauty as well. Because we can look like a supermodel, but if we lack beauty on the inside, then we are not beautiful:
1 Peter 3:3-4:
Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.
Also as a man we should not only look to the outer beauty of a woman (the other way is also applicable). In Proverbs 31:30 we read:
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
So when we are looking for beauty, make sure that (as is normal in the world) you don’t only look to the outer beauty, because it can be so deceitful and make that you make a wrong choice in the relationship you enter in. Know that God has already determined someone to be your husband or wife. If we follow God, then you will know when that someone enters into your life, because the Holy Spirit will let you know … this was exactly what happened when I met my wife.
So please don’t allow the devil to use the media and current society standards to determine what beauty is, because it seems that the more a woman shows with her clothing the more beautiful she is … while the beauty is very much in how we are and act. Don’t sell yourself short, because you are very valuable to God!
I find it very important to address this part of beauty as well. Our children are thought a very sick and demonic way to look to sexuality. In their schools they are already thought when 12 years old that they need protection when having sex. Schools are not even teaching them to hold themselves from sex until married … no, they are just informing them to do it safe. In the media they see how sex is just for everything and can be used as a weapon (show nudity to get a man to do what you want). Also, our children see music videos and programs telling and showing them that they should were “sexy” clothing and show their breast and butts. For them it becomes normal to dress very sinful. They don’t even see it as sinful anymore. That is why we should teach our children that it is very wrong to see sexuality according to the world, and we need to teach them sex as the Bible tells us how we should see it. Never let your children go out of the house dressed in a way that brings down the respect with which people will look on them.
Also in marriage we should makes sure that our sexuality is only for our spouse. If not, then it can be very bad for the marriage:
1 Corinthians 7:3-5
The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
We should only give ourselves sexually to our spouse and never even let any else come near our spouse.
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
Nowadays being married is not so sacred anymore as homosexuals want that same right, while marriage by God is made for a man to marry a woman. Also nowadays the world looks down on marriage and wants us to not commit or even life a life with a lot of bed partners. But God makes is very clear that we are made to be for 1 man (when a woman) or vice versa.
Please keep on praying for our children that their view and opinions on sexuality, beauty and marriage is always based on Gods word. The world is actively trying to corrupt them, but luckily God will not allow that!
God bless you!